I think I'm finally making some headway here...
I know what your thinking... "What did she mean by kissing dating goodbye...she's only 15?"- Well, do I have and answer for you! I've recently finished reading the famous controversial book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye," (by Joshua Harris)...yes, once I read the "Do Hard Things," book...I had to read a book from Alex and Brett's older Brother, Joshua Harris. This book was actually not entirely about dating...the main theme throughout the book is; the idea of breaking away from our worldly traditional dating and examining our motives in our current relationships...if they're like most...they're probably for self benefits-without the other person in mind...in the long run.
~I tend to become very passionate about certain books...that is if they have meaning pertaining to my walk in Christianity...and this one was a very good one! Although this book was written when I was born...it still is very relevant... and is probably even more needed in today's society. Well, we should probably get back to the main point here...I tend to venture on rabbit trails...even through writing... if I'm not careful.~
At the beginning of this book; Joshua touches lightly upon his past relationships, he then goes into further detail upon how our world has mutilated the idea of courting/dating...into the self-seeking actions called"Hook-ups." Joshua also wrote of how the world's philosophy of dating has been incorporated into the church-this may be insignificant in alarm- but no matter how small...we need to make a change. According to Joshua Harris...there are seven Defective ways in the dating process today. The writer emphasized the need for commitment in our relationships, the preciousness of marriage and, the strength we can find in embracing our years of singleness for the Lord. So, I'm 15...why should I be kissing dating goodbye...when I have not even experienced such a thing...well, I'll tell you why; If I'm not ready for the commitment in my life (for marriage that is) then I shouldn't be leaving myself open for the engagement of such. Teens today- we want all the pleasures of dating the opposite sex without the responsibility for the other person's needs...or anything else regarding commitment for that matter. God made marriage...so, if we are dating or courting- then we should hopefully be interested in finding that possible mate...if a couple is just interested in having fun...the relationship is due to head down the cliff...(Break up). Speaking of cliffs...Joshua Harris gives a very thought provoking analogy of thrill-seeking hook-ups; Imagine, you and your dating partner are going to climb down a cliff...but when you are strapped and ready to make your way down...your partner refuses to hold the rope (without it there is no assurance of your safety)...Like Mr. Harris puts it...couples today- want all the benefits without being accountable to the other person. I have kissed dating goodbye...until I'm ready and God leads me where he wants me! Although this may be a radical idea...I feel the need to keep both my heart and body pure...this is one of my ways of serving God to my utmost being- besides look at how many Christian brothers and sisters we can encourage in our daily walks- Most of my ideas stem from the philosophy of Joshua Harris' book and my background knowledge of this subject.
So, I have Kissed Dating Goodbye...what about you?
~I tend to become very passionate about certain books...that is if they have meaning pertaining to my walk in Christianity...and this one was a very good one! Although this book was written when I was born...it still is very relevant... and is probably even more needed in today's society. Well, we should probably get back to the main point here...I tend to venture on rabbit trails...even through writing... if I'm not careful.~
At the beginning of this book; Joshua touches lightly upon his past relationships, he then goes into further detail upon how our world has mutilated the idea of courting/dating...into the self-seeking actions called"Hook-ups." Joshua also wrote of how the world's philosophy of dating has been incorporated into the church-this may be insignificant in alarm- but no matter how small...we need to make a change. According to Joshua Harris...there are seven Defective ways in the dating process today. The writer emphasized the need for commitment in our relationships, the preciousness of marriage and, the strength we can find in embracing our years of singleness for the Lord. So, I'm 15...why should I be kissing dating goodbye...when I have not even experienced such a thing...well, I'll tell you why; If I'm not ready for the commitment in my life (for marriage that is) then I shouldn't be leaving myself open for the engagement of such. Teens today- we want all the pleasures of dating the opposite sex without the responsibility for the other person's needs...or anything else regarding commitment for that matter. God made marriage...so, if we are dating or courting- then we should hopefully be interested in finding that possible mate...if a couple is just interested in having fun...the relationship is due to head down the cliff...(Break up). Speaking of cliffs...Joshua Harris gives a very thought provoking analogy of thrill-seeking hook-ups; Imagine, you and your dating partner are going to climb down a cliff...but when you are strapped and ready to make your way down...your partner refuses to hold the rope (without it there is no assurance of your safety)...Like Mr. Harris puts it...couples today- want all the benefits without being accountable to the other person. I have kissed dating goodbye...until I'm ready and God leads me where he wants me! Although this may be a radical idea...I feel the need to keep both my heart and body pure...this is one of my ways of serving God to my utmost being- besides look at how many Christian brothers and sisters we can encourage in our daily walks- Most of my ideas stem from the philosophy of Joshua Harris' book and my background knowledge of this subject.
So, I have Kissed Dating Goodbye...what about you?
You might find my blog of interest where I critique Josh Harris's book. Unfortunately he shares the defects of dating but doesn't share the defects of his approach nor the problems it has created over the years.
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"I Kissed Dating Goodbye: Wisdom or Foolishness"
Realize that IKDG might be appropriate at your age (I believe you said 15?) but may not be as appropriate as you get older.
Hope this helps.